Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Monday, October 25, 2010
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Church people are idiots! You do not have to agree with me, but I believe this with all my heart. There are too many ways in which we (and I include myself here) mess up over and over again. We are hypocritical, self-righteous, judgmental and “holier-than-thou.” It is no wonder that Christians have such a bad name in the world at large. After all, who wants to associate with people like us?
One of the ways that we offend and alienate the most people is in the area of our teachings on family issues. I believe that we are not intentional in excluding people, but we seem to forget those who are single or widowed. However, there is a lot that the Scripture has to teach about those who are not in a “traditional” family group.
First of all, let’s be clear that there is not a traditional, biblical model for families. The patriarchs were polygamists. The greatest king in Israel’s history, David, had multiple wives and mistresses and was a lousy father to his children. Jesus was never a part of a “traditional” family. The Apostle Paul was either divorced or never married. Our current pre-occupation with a husband, wife and children family unit is more cultural than spiritual.
With that being said, let’s consider biblical instructions for those who are unmarried.
- Widows (and widowers) are to be a special ministry concern of the church (Acts 6.1). We must not forget to care for those whom God has entrusted to us.
- Single people are to be faithful to God above all. In fact, in 1 Corinthians 7.32, Paul says that those who are unmarried are blessed and should remain that way. (Jesus praised those who were eunuchs for the Lord. Matthew 19.12)
- Divorce is a last resort only. People who are married are to stay married. Divorce is a sin (Mark 10.11).
- We are all a part of the same family of God. There is no Jew nor Greek (Galatians 3.28). No matter what kind of family I have on earth, I am part of God’s eternal family. He is my Father and those of you reading are my brothers and sisters.
Monday, October 11, 2010
I have a great family. My parents are still the greatest influence on my life. I want nothing more in this world than their approval. I love them and know that they love me. I have a good marriage. My wife is with me all the time. We consult one another about every decision and treasure the time we spend together. My daughter is in her own category. There is no one in this world that I love more than her. (I believe that it is also true that no one loves her more than I do.) But these family members are not what I would call friends.
- Friends are people who are related to you only because of mutual respect, affection and concern.
- A friend is someone who is genuinely glad as you succeed in life, and is concerned and offers support and assistance in a time of need.
- Friends offer advice and support.
- Friends are receptacles of garbage that we vent to them and on them.
- Friends are faithful through years, even when neglected.
- Friends do not take up a lot of time, but they have plenty of time to give when it is needed.
- Friends are not afraid to confront you when you mess up, but they will also help pick up the pieces when you fall apart.
- Friends never intentionally hurt, disappoint or annoy you. When they do any of those things, they are quick with an apology and appropriate acts of contrition and restitution.
- Friends are good for laughing with, crying with, playing with and being serious with.
- Friends help you through difficult times and keep you grounded in the good times.
- Friends will offer help and assistance, but will not be afraid to complain when they are being taken for granted, or taken advantage of.
- A friend will actively work for you improvement and do their best to keep you from any self-destructive behaviors or attitudes.
- A friend will cheer you up when you are depressed and help you keep a level head when things are going well.
- Friends love you with no expectations or stipulations.
- Friends are committed to the friendship without regard to convenience or personal gain.
- Friends are in it for the long term.
- Friends never quit being friends.
- Friends are filled with grace, understanding, patience and forgiveness toward one another.
Saturday, October 9, 2010
Saturday, October 2, 2010
- There are some places that the hand washing sign is completely superfluous. Employees in a race track stable, hog farm or landfill have bigger sanitary issues than just their hands. Likewise, those who work in a car wash may find that their hands are constantly being washed while on the job.
- It is completely possible for some men to use the restroom without ever touching any surface that would require hand washing. (Of course, this would mean that an automatic or foot flush is needed.) Why should I wash if I touched nothing in the restroom and nothing on my body?